Often when it’s a difficult relationship and we’re frustrated with people who aren’t doing what we ask or need of them, then we start to focus on what we don’t like about them, and all their flaws and weaknesses. The more difficult the relationship, the harder it is for us to see their humanity and goodness.

Think of someone you’re having a difficult time with.

What’s good about them? What’s their “tiny Timmy” story – the little child in them that has needs and vulnerabilities? To what degree have you acknowledged their goodness or their vulnerabilities?

This post is an excerpt from this month’s feature: The Bottom-line on John Carlin’s Invictus.
For the full Bottom-line audio and transcript, workbook, author interview and set of coaching emails, check out The Bottom-line on Invictus.

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The Bottom-line on Invictus is my favorite Bottom-line so far. I loved doing the research for it and creating it for you – and it made me really homesick for South Africa!

As usual, I interviewed the author – John Carlin. John is an incredibly experienced journalist whose work has focused on political change in South Africa. He got to know Nelson Mandela quite intimately for the writing of his book, Invictus, as well as other documentaries he’s written about Nelson Mandela and his ex-wife, Winnie Mandela. So John’s insights were absolute gems. Then I extracted 19 leadership strategies that Nelson Mandela used to be a transformational leader to create my Bottom-line lecture. But the part of this Bottom-line that I was most moved by was my interview with ex-Freedom-Fighter and political prisoner, Thulani Mabaso. So I’ve decided to share this interview with everyone because I want as many people as possible to hear it.

Warning: not recommended for sensitive listeners

It’s an incredibly powerful interview – partly because of the gems of wisdom that Mr Mabaso shared, but also because of the extremity of his story. He hasn’t sanitized the story for you, so be prepared to hear some pretty hardcore stuff.

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Would you like a daily reminder of the powerful ideas in The Bottom-line on Invictus? Use these free wallpapers, created by one of the Bottom-line Bookclub members, the wonderful Rachael Acklin aka The Caffeinated Elf.

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Nelson Mandela is the epitome of Agile Living and Agile Leadership, which is essentially about living in a way that exercises your freedom and expands freedom for others. Exercising your mental and emotional freedom is the foundation of Agile Living and creating all the other types of freedom that you might want for yourself and the people around you. In spite of having many of his freedoms severely constrained and restricted, and having his loved ones tortured and killed in terrible ways, Nelson Mandela chose to exercise mental and emotional freedom and to think and feel from a place of love and peace rather than fear, hatred and revenge. And this is in my view the reason he was able to be such a transformational leader.

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I just wanted to give you a quick heads-up on an upcoming change with my shoppingcart that most of you will be very happy about.

Here’s the Twitter summary:

I’m switching my shopping cart over to USD and increasing the Bottom-line Bookclub prices. To give you a chance to get in before the prices go up, for 48hrs after I’ve switched my cart to USD, you’ll be able to get the Bottom-lines at their current rate in USD. After that the Bottom-line Bookclub will go up by 50%. All members registered before 8 June will retain the lower rate even after the monthly subs go up for everyone else.

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Agile Living is about creating a multi-dimensional, flexible and resourceful mindset and lifestyle that welcomes variety, change and uncertainty. Like an agile dancer that moves and changes easily, to create something beautiful, Agile Living is about having a mind that moves and changes easily to create something beautiful. So I’m always interested to find out more about what makes us stiffen up, go rigid, hold back or get stuck in our dance, and how we can dissolve that and go back to our natural, agile state. Because that’s how I see it… we’re naturally agile, but some stuff gets in the way and stiffens us up and then we need to find the stiff parts and stretch them out again to return back to our multi-dimensional, flexible, resourceful, agile self that moves easily through the world, creating and being what we love.

The Fuck It Way is all about finding the stiff parts, where we’re not dancing well with life, and stretching them out and limbering them up again and returning to this naturally agile state, where we loosen up, relax and begin to move easily through life, and of course enjoy the dance.

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